Forgive

Forgiveness is inevitable if one longs to be free and fully at peace. We may be blinded at times, mistaking our anger for self-love or self-righteousness, when in reality, it's our last ditch effort to hold on to the past, to cling so desperately to what's no longer serving us out of fear of the …

Choose Yourself

In the recent years, looking back, I noted that I was able to have/create what I really wanted not by actively pursuing them, but by giving them up. It's counter-intuitive, I know, but the lesson I get is always simple and always the same: When you honor your values, when you don't settle for less …

Accept the Insult

I recently went through a period of intense disconnect with myself. My self-esteem was at a point so low I even dared to lick every trickle of validation I could get from the people around me. I felt was confused and lost. I didn't know who I was and what my spirit really wanted to …

Self-Validation first

I've been thinking lately that being judgmental of others could probably be just a symptom of one's need to be validated. We express it in various ways - some of us become passive-aggressive, others outrightly domineering, while some choose to ridicule others to look good and feel good. I am a very judgmental person even …