Sometimes what we need to be able to let go of the past and what no longer serves us is to accept defeat, to accept that something didn’t work out for some crappy reason that’s why it had to go, to state how crappy some things actually were.
Sometimes staying in the “harnessing the good stuff, the good memories, wanting to remain in friendly terms” only holds us back. Sometimes what we need to be able to make the choice to move forward is to stop soothing ourselves, but to actually have the guts to admit, “You are full of bull crap. This is nuts. You have to grow up. Move. On.”